10 Godly Characteristics To Look For In a Future Spouse

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Godly relationships don’t just happen. They take two people who are committed to putting God first.

Physical attraction can cloud your judgment and cause you to make decisions based strictly on feelings. Be armed and dangerous while dating, and plan ahead by keeping these vital qualities in mind when making a decision on Mr. or Mrs. Right.

Here are 10 Things To Look For In A Future Spouse:

Relationship With God

If God is at the center of their life, you can be sure He’ll be at the center of your marriage. This is helpful because rather than fighting different battles in the flesh you can do it through the Holy Spirit.

Devotional Habit

Do they prioritize prayer, Bible reading and quiet time with God? A person who places a value on spiritual disciplines and nurturing a proper inner life, will place value on Holy Spirit guided decisions that will bless your marriage relationship for years to come.


Does he put the needs of others before himself?  Is he always  looking for ways to help others? A selfless spouse will always aim to please rather than making it all about them.


Watch how they treat people. When you go to a restaurant how do they treat the server? This is a huge indicator of where their heart is and how they will treat you over the long haul. You want a spouse that will value and esteem you.

Unconditional Love

Do they do things out of the kindness of their heart or are they opportunists? Someone who often does good deeds expecting nothing in return has learned the art of unselfishness and will be a joy to live with.


An authentic soul is a rare jewel. If you have found someone that has this quality, hold on to them. If a person tells countless lies and shows no remorse behind it; run as fast as you can in the opposite direction.


This is best observed in how they treat their family and friends. Do they prioritize these relationships and make time to cultivate and maintain them? A loyal spouse is a steadfast support system in the midst of inevitable change.

Good With Kids

The ability to be gentle, kind and tender with children will be a plus if you plan on having kids. It’s not a deal breaker, but it’s nice to have a playful partner from time to time. It will keep you young and bring joy to family life.

Listens With Love

Watch their listening style and see if they are truly listening or just waiting to make their next point. An active listener always considers the other person and seeks to understand before being understood.