I recently watched ‘The Perfect Man’, and realized that I used to be just like Sanaa Lathan’s character. At one point it seemed like I constantly dwelled on settling down and getting married. I analyzed most men that crossed my path as potential partners,  I had a checklist in my mind and literally checked off likes and dislikes by the first date looking for the qualified perfect man for me. Soon some of my friends were getting married, this didn’t help my case at all, the pressure was on. I kept thinking  “God, what about me?” It was a frustrating season in my life. To know exactly what you…

Inside every adult body, I believe there’s a child-like spirit or memories of one. As grown folks, childhood memories can be priceless tools to assist us and venture out to do something new, something great, something outside of our comfort zone. For me it was starting a business. Recently, I took an inventory of some of them. I was particularly interested in memories where I used my imagination be to creative despite the odds. Two events came to mind. The first is when my cousin and I made homemade pizza. We were about 10 and 11. We didn’t even have…

I had the privilege of growing up overseas in Nairobi, Kenya as a missionary kid, or MK. After graduating high school from a private Christian school there I moved back to the US to start college. Since leaving Kenya after graduation I had only visited a few times and mostly because my parents and younger sisters still lived there. Once the four of them joined my older brother and I on this side of the ocean, a trip back to Kenya seemed even less likely. But April 2014 God allowed me to journey home on a mission trip with my church.…

When God closes a door it can feel like all hope is lost, but it’s not. Here are 4 Reasons God May Have Closed a Door.

What doesn’t break you, only makes you AND your faith stronger.

It was a frosty Friday morning, and I was gathering and preparing two grandchildren for the simple task of ushering the oldest to preschool. Any mom knows it is only a simple task when we need to slip our coats on and walk out the door alone, right? The four-year-old was ready and waiting with his shoes on but needed his coat zipped. Turning my back on his two-year-old sister to zip his coat allowed her the millisecond she needed to “help” Mimi by slipping out of hers. I turned to find her coatless and fighting to remove a shoe.…

“There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1 Have you ever had a moment when you’re trying to push a door open and then you look up only to realize it says, “pull?” I have done this a time or two – trying to force my way into a department store hoping there are no prying eyes around when I realize my foolishness! Ironically, people use the idea of an ‘open door’ all the time when referring to moments of victory in their life. Undoubtedly, God can allow circumstances…

The only thing harder than waiting on God, is wishing you had.

I have learned that faith is like a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it becomes.

3 Things To Consider if You’re Waiting on Boaz Waiting on Boaz seems to be the common theme among Christian women. Everybody wants a Boaz. I remember when I first developed my own personal relationship with God, giving over my singleness to Him was hard to do. I was afraid that His standards would leave me single for the rest of my life. But then one day He asked me… “Well, has anything you’ve tried in your strength and wisdom gotten you married with children?” To which my response was “no”. And He said “Exactly”. But I’ve digressed. One of…

“I was teased growing up,” I began.  “For three years, male and female tweens talked about the size of my nose, the color of my skin, my skinny legs, and non existent breast,” I continued.  Initially, I had no intentions of divulging my adolescent tale of woe with the fourth and fifth grade mentees, but I deemed it necessary. Just before my comments the girls viewed a PowerPoint presentation of women thought of as beautiful:  Beyonce, Rihanna, Ciara, and then Lupita Nyong’o.  The immediate response to Lupita’s image was one of disdain. She was dark and her hair was short.…

Here are 6 Steps to Better Understanding The Bible

“Do not rejoice over me, my enemy; when I fall, I will arise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord will be a light to me.” (Micah 7:8) Getting back up after a fall is never easy for it requires a great deal of stamina to pull yourself up from a horizontal position to a vertical position. I remember viewing a Track and Field meet on television and watching two seasoned female athletes compete against each other. It was obvious from looking at both of them that they were in superb physical condition and had prepared themselves for this hurdling competition.…

“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” (Exodus 14:14) So that really handsome, God fearing man that you thought was going to be your husband just broke broke your heart. Depression is knocking at your door and you just want to sulk in your own misery. Your family and close friends all just want to comfort you, but they hit you with those cliches that you just don’t want to hear. Some of them go something like this: “Oh girl, you deserve better.” “God has a better plan.” “He just wasn’t the one for you.” “God…

I was in disbelief. Did I just stand up and pledge $2,000 to help build our new church? My inner voice was screaming… “Are you crazy? Did you just stand up in front of all these people and say you’d give $2,000? You know that you can’t sit back down, people are watching you. You do know that you just made a vow to God and He doesn’t take vows lightly.” I felt faintish, but I couldn’t turn back now. Over the past year, I sowed a seed here and there. My balance owed was $1,400. That spring, I received…

If you are having a hard time moving past a painful time, I encourage you to lift up this prayer:

There are certain sayings that on the surface appear to be a bit selfish. Like the saying “I can do bad all by myself ” or “I don’t need no one. It’s team me, myself and I”.  While these sayings may sound like they’re coming from a place of arrogance and pride, to the contrary, they come from a place of self-defeat.  Many of us as women have experienced a certain level of defeat in our lives, particularly in our relationships/friendships.  I know I have. In this place, we begin to devalue relationships and start to believe that everything and everyone is…

I didn’t want to be alone when I was single. My single state felt like an uncomfortable glove. I was addicted to love and the feeling it produced in me. I wasn’t very selective when it came to choosing whom the love came from, I just wanted someone to quell my desire; at the time I didn’t see it that way, I just called it “dating”. One failed relationship proceeded another in hopes that the giddiness of new love would numb out the pain of the previous one. Looking back it was a destructive vicious cycle with no end. I…

I’m from New York. I’ve lived there for twenty-somewhat years. It’s the city that never sleeps. Never stops. For better or for worse, that’s ingrained in me. So though, I’ve been living in the sanctity of peaceful Maryland for the last 4.5 years, that New- York- work-now-rest-never spirit still lives in me. And I’m working on it. I’m working on it because for most of my adult life, (and I’m only 26)  I have silently struggled with anxiety and hypertension. My mental and physical well-being depends on me finding rest often and consistently. I’m working on it. I work a…

My roommate finally walked in. It was our very first day at the university. We exchanged our details then she asked… “What does your mom do?” I had to think very fast because I was not about to say “she sells fruits and vegetables”… so instead I said “she works at a bank” That’s what I told her and everybody else I met at the university. You see this didn’t seem like a big lie at first. They don’t even know me and they will never really find out about my mom. It might have been a small lie but I had given…