Let’s get straight to the point: I WANT TO GET MARRIED! Yes, I said it, and it’s not a secret. I was that girl who grew up under an awesome example of a Godly marriage; My parents. The point is I’ve always wanted to get married. Here is the thing though; I wanted marriage more than I wanted to know God. You see, I love God and all of that, but I loved the idea of marriage even more. I would stalk young married couples via YouTube and social media. I would spend hours looking at Instagram and Facebook posts…
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Too many people are focused on the wrong things. Here are 10 relationship goals every Christian couple should have…
Real love leads you closer to God, not pulls you away.
Before I was married, I enjoyed the single life. It was fun for me? hanging out with my girls almost every weekend, taking road trips, not having to check in with anyone about where I was going and not having to let anyone know when I would be returning. The single life definitely had its moments of enjoyment. However, after I said “I do,” I acknowledged there were some actions that couldn’t join me in marriage. In order to make a relationship work, I believe there are certain behaviors married folks just shouldn’t do. Here are 10 signs that you…
When Relationships Become an Idol, we set ourselves up for all sorts of trouble. Living God’s way offers protection.
A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences. (Proverbs 22:3) As a survivor of domestic abuse, people often wonder why I (or other victims) stay in abusive relationships. All I can tell you, is there are as many reasons as there are stars in the sky. There is no simple answer. I am certain we all have stayed in a relationship longer than we should have at some point in our lives. Despite our partner being abusive, having drug or alcohol addiction’s, infidelities, or was simply not as committed as we…
Mr. Wrong can appear to be everything you’ve prayed for. The enemy knows exactly what your weaknesses are. Be aware and stay alert!
While surfing Facebook, I ran into several advertisements for books/ebooks that promise to help single women find a man in the church, or giving advice if you are in the church, still single and can’t find the elusive “Boaz”. I JUST accepted that God heard every one of my prayers for a husband and then BOOM! I am told that I’m doing it all wrong and said book has all of the answers for a small fee. At that very moment, I wanted to scream! I felt like I was in the middle of a late-night infomercial: Buy this book…
When a woman gets to the stage where marriage seems to be the single most important thing in the universe, the doors of temptation fling wide open. Patience, grace, and feminine mystique are put to the ultimate test. But sisters, here’s one thing to remember; DO NOT approach a man when he is hungry or thirsty! My dad does not function very well when he is hungry. My brother, who everyone knows is super humorous and cheerful can be a tantrum-throwing baby and completely irrational when he’s hungry (maybe I’m exaggerating a little bit. But the point is, I have…
When God is the center of your life, everything else will fall in it’s proper place.
I recently watched ‘The Perfect Man’, and realized that I used to be just like Sanaa Lathan’s character. At one point it seemed like I constantly dwelled on settling down and getting married. I analyzed most men that crossed my path as potential partners, I had a checklist in my mind and literally checked off likes and dislikes by the first date looking for the qualified perfect man for me. Soon some of my friends were getting married, this didn’t help my case at all, the pressure was on. I kept thinking “God, what about me?” It was a frustrating season in my life. To know exactly what you…
3 Things To Consider if You’re Waiting on Boaz Waiting on Boaz seems to be the common theme among Christian women. Everybody wants a Boaz. I remember when I first developed my own personal relationship with God, giving over my singleness to Him was hard to do. I was afraid that His standards would leave me single for the rest of my life. But then one day He asked me… “Well, has anything you’ve tried in your strength and wisdom gotten you married with children?” To which my response was “no”. And He said “Exactly”. But I’ve digressed. One of…
“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” (Exodus 14:14) So that really handsome, God fearing man that you thought was going to be your husband just broke broke your heart. Depression is knocking at your door and you just want to sulk in your own misery. Your family and close friends all just want to comfort you, but they hit you with those cliches that you just don’t want to hear. Some of them go something like this: “Oh girl, you deserve better.” “God has a better plan.” “He just wasn’t the one for you.” “God…
I didn’t want to be alone when I was single. My single state felt like an uncomfortable glove. I was addicted to love and the feeling it produced in me. I wasn’t very selective when it came to choosing whom the love came from, I just wanted someone to quell my desire; at the time I didn’t see it that way, I just called it “dating”. One failed relationship proceeded another in hopes that the giddiness of new love would numb out the pain of the previous one. Looking back it was a destructive vicious cycle with no end. I…
Stay on a Godly path and God will allow the right people to come along to join you.
Whether it’s allotting a few hours a day to browse potential Tinder candidates or venturing out to the local coffee bar more often than you should, finding “Mr. Right” is often top priority on any single gal’s to-do list. Infatuated with the idea that the man of our dreams isn’t far beyond our reach, we find hope in stumbling into the quaint coffee shop, committing to the right gym or attending the crowded party in order to land in his very presence. You name it–I’ve dated. From the habitual cheater to the nonsensical liar, my unhealthy enumeration of men could…
When you come out, you won’t be the same person who went in, and sometimes that’s what the storm is all about!
Growing in Christ sometimes means walking away from all of the drama… and the people who love to create it!
By design we want the fairytale. Flowers, Adoration, Chocolates, Chivalry, Gifts & the elaborate pursuit If we know what we desire, why is it that so many women married and single do not receive it? Often finding ourselves in unsatisfying relationships. We attempt to pressure, coerce, and manipulate the man in our lives to become who we think he should be. Author and psychologist H. Norman Wright says, “So often, what a father gives to his daughter affects her expectations toward the men in her life. Similarly, what a father withholds from his daughter can also affect her expectations toward other…
The devil doesn’t come dressed in a red cape and pointy horns. He comes as everything you’ve ever wished for. Be vigilant and stay prayed up!
