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So I read an article on why single ladies can’t find their Boaz, David and Joseph. Very insightful and interesting article. The writer mentioned a key point which led me down a road of other thoughts. He stated that these notable men in the Bible did not have life all figured out but they definitely were connected to God and walked with Him. This shared fact had me thinking: David was a man after God’s heart; Joseph was revered as being a man of such great integrity. And Boaz? I can’t count the number of times that I’ve heard my single…

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“Adam & Eve weren’t married, “ he said. I was dumbfounded. I couldn’t believe my boyfriend, a minister in training, was trying to convince me to sleep with him prior to marriage by using Bible characters. When I persisted in saying no, he told me my desire to abstain was a “good goal,” but wasn’t realistic. This man wasn’t the only “church player” I dated prior to meeting and marrying my husband. Another man warned me not to be “so heavenly minded that I was no earthly good.” I found out later that he was messing around with many sisters in…

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As we approach the month of April I am reminded of the time I fasted from men for an entire month. I made this decision, because I was an emotional wreck over a relationship that was a total mess. It in turn left me a mess. I went from being confident and focused to feeling rejected and unloved. It was the beginning of 2014, and I had hit a low point already. I desperately needed something different than what I had been experiencing, and I knew only God could fix me. During the month of March 2014, I was really…

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On Valentine’s Day my husband gave me this tiny piece of artwork to put on my desk—something to make me laugh. Do you know what it says? It says, “Love you more than my iPhone.” Honesty, it had me cracking up because if the two of us aren’t mindful about our habits, someone can definitely be left feeling like they are competing with the iPhone for some love. Technology is an amazing thing. It allows you to stay connected to people miles away, form great friendships with people you have never met in person, and even launch businesses that you…

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I couldn’t believe it happened to me. My first heartbreak came from a man of God. He was actually the son of a preacher, with aspirations to lead his own flock one day. Out of all the silly, mediocre relationships I’d been in that amounted to nothing, I just knew I had hit the jackpot when I started dating my man of God. I just knew we’d get married and live happily ever after. Why? Because, he was a Christian man. He wouldn’t leave me. He wouldn’t break my heart. Blah blah, blah…  I can’t decide what hurt me the…

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Many singles dread Valentine’s Day. While guys and girls have their own specific set of challenges that stem from this holiday; the single woman’s struggle is unique for many reasons. Many women have been taught to hold Valentine’s Day in high regard and often feel like they’re lacking in the relationship area of their life if they are single on Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year. Living in Los Angeles I have the privilege of being friends with women from diverse ethnic groups; and one thing they all have in common is that they’re all looking for…

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I never had a promise ring, but I wanted one. Christian culture taught me that in order to “earn” a husband, I needed to save myself. I needed to be pure so that I would be considered a good wife. I was taught that girls who didn’t save themselves would never be happy and would also have bad relationships. I was basically taught that physical purity would lead to a godly husband. Does this sound familiar to any of you? Never did I hear a sermon about my physical purity that did not directly correlate with marriage. The two were always connected. I believed…

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