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Christian society has planted the idea that dealing with lust is mostly a male problem, and this is simply not so. During and after my relationship with my ex- boyfriend, the door to lust was knocked wide-open for me to enter. And although it’s been a while since we’ve broken up, I’m still dealing with lust, and such sin could have been avoided had I (and he) been more responsible with certain aspects of affection. If you’re currently in a relationship, and what you look forward to most is the physical affection, even if you’re not sleeping together, you are in lust, and not love. Looking back, that…

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A woman meets a man and she finds herself intrigued. They get to know each other and this man is simply everything she could hope for. Great guy, good-looking, and she recognizes a connection exists. She finds herself developing feelings for this man and wanting to be in his presence. She then begins to feel nervous and uncomfortable. How can this man be so great? She thinks this is simply too good to be true. These feelings make her feel like she isn’t in control, and she starts to feel vulnerable. So many people have hurt her in the past,…

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The other day I was thinking about some of the relationships I was in, that DIDN’T work out. One would think I wouldn’t have been so blinded by “love” to recognize these guys clearly weren’t “the one” for me. I guess in my case, it took meeting “the one” for me to recognize the difference from God writing my love story versus a bootleg script crafted by Yours Truly. Stevie is the one for me and I knew it since day 1. However, here are some things HE did along the way that confirmed we were meant to be. Is…

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There are many women of faith that have gone in prayer and asked “God where is my Boaz?”. There are many churches that have preached to single women to continue waiting for your Boaz. Yet despite all of your efforts, Boaz has not come, and frustration has taken his place. This can seem so unfair, but maybe there is a very good reason this blessing has been delayed. What could possibly be hindering the process? What could you, as a woman of God, be overlooking while you continue to wait on your Boaz? 1. You’re Scared of Being Vulnerable Life…

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Dating and relationships can be tough at times. It isn’t always easy navigating through all the nonsense and figuring who is truly best for you. There are so many factors to consider, but ultimately the most important factor is God. Getting his guidance on the matter is essential when you’re trying to position yourself to receive what is best for you. However, it isn’t always a simple process because hearing Him correctly is a work in progress for most. If that wasn’t hard enough to deal with, now you have to also consider the impact of family, friends, and possibly…

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At least half of all marriages in today’s society are speeding down the highway to divorce, say the statistics. It’s becoming clear that many who enter marriage don’t have enough gas for the trip. In fact, the majority of couples spend much more time planning a five-hour wedding than they do preparing to live under the same roof with another imperfect person for the rest of their lives! In Luke 14:28 Jesus says, “‘Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Will he not first sit down and estimate the cost to see if he has enough money to…

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A few months ago, I wrote the post, The Month I Fasted from Men and How it Changed My Life. A lot of you contacted me asking for specifics on what to do during the fast, so I wrote this post to help guide you on your journey.  Disclaimer: This fast is not to help you get a man in return, although it sounds like a good incentive and could very well bring the partner God has for you. But, most importantly, the fast is designed to teach you 1) how to trust God with the desires of your heart,…

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