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I was flabbergasted and a little shook up. About four years ago, as I progressed through the book I Kissed Dating Goodbye, I was flabbergasted that couples existed who waited to kiss until their wedding day and shook up because, if God commanded this, then I had already blown my chance over a high school romance. Even still, something was not sitting right with me about this premise. So I went to my pastor. We sat in his office and talked for a solid hour about the purpose of this book and the thoughts it advocated on dating. I still…

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I’ve had the privilege of being mentored by a marriage and family therapist for the past fourteen years. Mentoring is a huge understatement and is probably only a euphemism he uses to soften the fact that I’ve actually been receiving free therapy all this time! Meeting with professionals like him would normally cost a truckload of money, so I’m very thankful he’s never sent me a bill. If he did, I’d probably owe him at least twenty thousand dollars—no joke. Through hundreds of our unofficial counseling sessions, I’ve gleaned at least five key aspects of dating that are relevant to…

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Let’s get straight to the point: I WANT TO GET MARRIED! Yes, I said it, and it’s not a secret. I was that girl who grew up under an awesome example of a Godly marriage; My parents. The point is I’ve always wanted to get married. Here is the thing though; I wanted marriage more than I wanted to know God. You see, I love God and all of that, but I loved the idea of marriage even more. I would stalk young married couples via YouTube and social media. I would spend hours looking at Instagram and Facebook posts…

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A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences. (Proverbs 22:3) As a survivor of domestic abuse, people often wonder why I (or other victims) stay in abusive relationships. All I can tell you, is there are as many reasons as there are stars in the sky. There is no simple answer. I am certain we all have stayed in a relationship longer than we should have at some point in our lives. Despite our partner being abusive, having drug or alcohol addiction’s, infidelities, or was simply not as committed as we…

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While surfing Facebook, I ran into several advertisements for books/ebooks that promise to help single women find a man in the church, or giving advice if you are in the church, still single and can’t find the elusive “Boaz”. I JUST accepted that God heard every one of my prayers for a husband and then BOOM! I am told that I’m doing it all wrong and said book has all of the answers for a small fee. At that very moment, I wanted to scream! I felt like I was in the middle of a late-night infomercial: Buy this book…

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I recently watched ‘The Perfect Man’, and realized that I used to be just like Sanaa Lathan’s character. At one point it seemed like I constantly dwelled on settling down and getting married. I analyzed most men that crossed my path as potential partners,  I had a checklist in my mind and literally checked off likes and dislikes by the first date looking for the qualified perfect man for me. Soon some of my friends were getting married, this didn’t help my case at all, the pressure was on. I kept thinking  “God, what about me?” It was a frustrating season in my life. To know exactly what you…

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